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March 29 COUNT YOUR BLESSINGSIf you have a roof over your head, a bed to sleep in, food on the table and people that love you........
count your blessings!!!!
Having recently gained a new on-line friend, it made me think how we take so much for granted. Here was someone who'd lost his job, suffered a serious hand injury, was left by his long term lover (who even sold his home without his knowledge) all within a short space of time, so he's left bewildered and trying to make sense of this sudden new situation. Many people will identify with the awful mismatch of feelings that arise at times like these, from anger, sadness, emptiness to complete bewilderment.....many thoughts of 'why me?' 'I've lost everything that I valued in life', 'how can I ever rebuild my life', 'my life is no longer worth living'..... and many more 'whys?'
If we experience sudden major life changes, whereby everything that kept us stable, and gave meaning to our lives is taken away, we are left with an awful feeling of emptiness and loss it's just hard to imagine how one's life can ever be restored. The truth is, it can't well at least not in the same way. The fact that something major happened to you, or around you, means that you are forced into valuing your life from a different perspective, and one you cannot turn the clocks back on.
There are many things that can happen, that can bring you to this life changing moment, a loved one leaving or a 'passing', natural disasters, an accident or illness...........I was thinking about recent floods and other disasters taking away or destroying people's homes, belongings and everything that was valued, not just monetry value but having sentimental value too. Well, it brings me to considering that these things are still part of natural laws, just as when a brush fire in the countryside clears an area of it's beautiful greenery, it also serves a purpose of regenerating new life and stronger plants for the future. It takes a lot to stop nature having the final word, haven't we all seen that odd blade of grass growning out of concrete, how incredible is that? The blade of grass is just seeking the light. In the same way we are born to grow and develop, and so it seems that to move forward in life after traumatic experiences and other life changing events, we somehow have to find a way to 'release' and 'let go' and make way for the new. To do this takes time, because first you have to acknowledge fully what has happened and accept that you can't change the past, so keeping it alive in your thoughts is wasted energy. In this period of accepting something major has happened, reflect on whether there are any 'lessons' to be learned as you may need to make changes in your thinking to prevent the reoccurrence of similar circumstances forming an undesireable pattern for the future.
People have great capacity to do great things, but it is also true that many great things are achieved un-noticed, yet are often born out of disasters and the desire to 'pick oneself up' and 'keep on going'. It is the way ordinary people do extraordinary things with their lives and accomplish things against the odds, that is truely magnificent.
I was just going to write about creating a future that has its roots in appreciation of what you are and what you have with a sense of delight with everything, rather than the focus being centred around all the things you don't have, or what you are not. Material things can be lost in an instant but wherever you go, you take your mind and personality with you, so make sure you use it before you lose it.
You can't change the past but you can shape your future, so don't just wish for luck/things/skills to happen, go out there and build it, learn it create it. |
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